The Recovering Perfectionist's 5 Step Guide to Achievable Goals

In a world that often glorifies perfection, the pursuit of health goals can become a slippery slope for us who are in recovery from perfectionism. The desire for flawless outcomes and unwavering dedication can lead to burnout, frustration, and a constant sense of failure. This can lead to depression and just throwing the towel in on our healthful goals.

What if there’s a way out of this cycle?

This blog aims to shed light on the importance of embracing imperfection while pursuing health goals, offering a more balanced and sustainable approach to well-being!

Step 1:  Redefining Success:

Recovering perfectionists often measure success solely by achieving flawless results. But when it comes to health goals, it's crucial that we redefine success. Instead of fixating on an idealized version of health, focus on progress, consistency, and self-compassion. What would it look like to focus on your daily habits instead of obsessing over the outcomes?

What if you fell in love with your daily routine and made your healthy habits your goal, then the outcomes become a side-effect?

Step 2: Setting Realistic and Attainable Goals

We tend to set lofty and often unattainable goals, setting ourselves up for disappointment. To break free from this cycle, start by setting realistic and achievable health goals. Break down larger objectives into smaller, more manageable steps. This not only makes the journey less overwhelming but also increases the likelihood of success. I’ve often found that when I am hard on myself, I only set myself back even further.

What would it look like to be your biggest cheerleader? To look back at the end of your day and say “yes! You did amazing in this area. I am proud of you.” It may feel foreign at first, but it does become natural with time.

Step 3: Embracing Flexibility

We find it challenging to embrace the unpredictable nature of life: celebrations, vacations, holidays, unexpected events...life is full of twists and turns, and learning to adapt can be a powerful tool in maintaining overall well-being. Try giving yourself room to enjoy the journey, not feel restricted or thrown off course.

Are your goals flexible, even when life happens?

Step 4: Prioritizing Self-Care

As perfectionists, we often prioritize the needs of others, above our own neglecting essential self-care practices. Recognize that taking care of yourself is not a luxury but a necessity.

How can you fill anyone else’s cup when yours is empty?

Incorporate self-care routines that cater to your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. This could include activities such as mindfulness, exercise, adequate sleep, and hobbies that bring joy and relaxation.

Can you do something, even just 5 minutes, for yourself every day?

Step 5: Seeking Support

As perfectionists in recovery, we can struggle with the fear of judgment and the misconception that asking for help is a sign of weakness. In the pursuit of health goals, seeking support is not only acceptable but highly encouraged. Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends, family, or a professional who can offer guidance, encouragement, and accountability.

You may be surprised how freeing it is to share in this journey and realizing you’re not alone in your areas of struggles.

In Conclusion

Recovering perfectionists may face unique challenges on their journey towards health and well-being, but by embracing imperfection, setting realistic goals, staying flexible, prioritizing self-care, and seeking support, we can create a sustainable and fulfilling path to a healthier life. Remember, health is not about perfection; it's about progress, self-compassion, and the journey towards a balanced and thriving life.

We never really arrive in this life. So, enjoy the journey, beautiful.